One of the most important social competency skills.

If you think about every time you are with another person, you are sharing space. Sharing space requires thinking of others. This is not just referring to personal space and keeping our physical distance. We should think about what to say and do while sharing space in a group. In our brick club, space sharing is for building together.

Our brick club teams have shown me as a moderator that we accomplish so much more by taking a step back and not pushing an agenda. Most importantly, to connect with peers and have a sense of belonging.

When I:

1. Listen more than I speak

2. Provide choices and ideas rather than direction

3. Offer my help and model smart choices

These three acts encourage and motivate moving the team forward and fostering collaboration.

When I listen:

• There is more personal sharing of thoughts and feelings. Even when the conversation may seem disconnected amidst the exchange, there is always critical sharing.

• For example, Mrs. Ana, it has been a hard, long day. I am not focused today, and I am upset about it. I feel dumb sometimes.

When I provide choices rather than directions:

• There is increased motivation.

• A flexible and problem-solving approach.

• For example: What do you all think we should do (this or that)? The teams quickly make a choice and often provide feedback. They are encouraged to be asked and empowered to act.

When I help or join to assist:

• It fosters more cooperation in the team.

• Focus on the task.

• The roles in brick club model the benefits of working together. Modeling, helping, and a spirit of service. For example, the team says, sorry we got distracted; thanks for helping us focus.

This holiday season, practice sharing space in family activities while listening, providing choices, and modeling helpfulness.